• Amy Hammond

How to Address Wedding Envelopes

Updated: Apr 5


Hand calligraphed envelope with blue ink

This is probably the area that I receive the most questions about. The most common questions are:

- How do I address a wedding envelope with a guest?

- How do I address an envelope for a same sex couple?

- How do I address an envelope for a non-binary guest?

- How do I address a wedding invitation to a family?

- How do I address a wedding invitation to an engaged couple?

- How do I address a wedding invitation to two doctors?

- If I am inviting an unmarried couple, whose name do I write first?


Regardless of whether you are having your guest addresses printed or if we are hiring a calligrapher to make art out of your envelopes, the same rules apply if you are hosting a traditional wedding. In this situation, envelopes are addressed formally. Almost nothing gets abbreviated. Beyond that, how you address the envelopes is another area where being a good host is important. You want your guests to feel comfortable and included. So here are some good tips and answers to the questions above.


Hand calligraphed wedding envelopes

How do I address a wedding envelope with a guest?

If you know the name of your friend or family member's guest, include it. This is one of the ways you can make your guests feel comfortable and included. Show that you are interested in who they would be bringing.


How do I address an envelope for a same sex couple?

If the couple isn’t married, you would address each person individually on the envelope on separate lines.

If the couple is married and kept their last names, you would put them on the same line with "and" in between their names (the same rule that applies to a heterosexual couple with two different last names).

If the couple has the same last name, there are some different theories on this.

  • You can write both names on the same line using Mr. (first name | last name) and Mr. (first name | last name) or Mrs. (first name | last name) and Mrs. (first name | last name)

  • You can use the French plural abbreviations. For two men, this would be Messrs. (first name | last name) and (first name | last name). For two women, this would be Mmes. (first name | last name)and (first name | last name).


Wedding Envelopes with inclusive titles for same sex couples and non-binary guests

How do I address an envelope for a non-binary guest?

This is such an important question! Knowing your guests preferred pronouns is a huge help here. If they go by traditional he or she, you can use Mr. or Ms. (or Mrs. if married). If your guest uses they as their pronoun, Mx. would be the appropriate gender-neutral title. If you don't want to come right out and ask a person, you may find their pronouns listed in their bio(s) on social media.


How do I address a wedding invitation to a family?

If you are using a single envelope, you would list the parents names on one line and the children on the next line.

If you are using double envelopes, you would list the parents names on the outer envelope and then list the childrens names under the parents names on the inner envelope.

If you don't know the childrens names, you can add "and family" after the parents names. Of course if you don't know the kids names, do you really want them at your wedding?



How to address an envelope to an engaged couple

How do I address a wedding invitation to an engaged couple?

If you know that a member of the couple will be changing their last name, it is always fun to use "The Future Mr. and Mrs. (last name)".

If you think the couple will be keeping their last names, you can list them on two separate lines on the envelope. Or, if you want acknowledge their upcoming marriage you can write "the soon-to-be-married" and write their names with titles and last names on one line.


How do I address a wedding invitation to two doctors?

If the doctors have different last names, use Dr. (first name | last name) and Dr. (first name | last name) on the same line.

If the doctors share the same last name, use the Doctors (last name).


If I am inviting an unmarried couple, whose name do I write first?

Who would you be inviting to your wedding whether or not the couple is together? That is the person you should list first on the envelope.


Wedding envelope with white printing

Addressing envelopes can be somewhat challenging, just keep in mind that you want to be a good host and you want your guests to feel comfortable and included. Spell their names correctly and find out whatever you can that would help to make them excited to see their name(s) on your invitation envelope.


For a little more detailed information on what titles to use, how to address the envelope, and who gets an invitation, visit this earlier blog post I wrote on the subject.



Amy Hammond is the owner of Stone Hill Paperie, an invitation, stationery, and personalized gift studio in the quaint village of Skippack, Pennsylvania. Available by appointment to give you the attention you deserve for your important and unique event. Graphic design services for your wedding in the Philadelphia area or anywhere in the U.S.


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